Do you have so far to go?
Last week I spent an afternoon mapping out my big vision for my business The Dragontree. That day I was super stoked to be getting it all on paper, to be able to see how we will serve our world so clearly, and to have a plan.
However, the couple days that followed, I felt down. Not depressed, just a little deflated. The perceived disparity between where we are now and where I want to take our company felt overwhelming.
Has this ever happened to you?
So many people that I work with to get their business, health or relationship goals find themselves in this spot. First they are super excited about their fantastic new aspiration, but then the realization of the work that it will take to get there sets in and it can be daunting.
Even as we progress along the way to getting big goals – if we access the difference between where we are and where we’re going, instead of where we are and where we’ve been, it can feel like we’re failing.
But, our path to our dream lives starts with the declaration of what that dream life is. You have to have a vision of it. Once you have taken that step – you are making progress toward it. And everything you do in the direction of these goals, is pulling them closer to your reality.
It’s like running a marathon, every time you put one foot in front of the other you move closer to the finish line. Just because you’re not at the end of the run, doesn’t mean that you aren’t headed there.
You’re not losing until the moment you win. – Tweet it
And the fact is, when you get to the “end goal”, you’ll just make new goals anyways, so you might as well be kind to yourself and enjoy what is right now. That’s what I did to get myself out of my post-high funk.
If you find yourself negatively evaluating your current state of affairs in comparison to your future goals, try these three things:
1. Make a list of everything you’ve achieved so far in your life. You’ve grown and done a lot in this life already – it’s important to recognize that. Practice gratitude for where you’re at.
2. Be super nice to yourself. I decided this year is all about falling in love with myself (I hope your joining me), and I find that I catch myself saying things to myself that I would never say to people I love. Do you? If so, catch yourself quick and then be kind.
Especially when you’re in a funk, it’s easy to fall into old habits of negative self talk. Stop it. Be your own best friend and give yourself a pep talk instead.
3. Resist the urge to indulge in further comparison. It may start with comparing your now to your envisioned future, but it easily branches into comparing yourself to others.
Assessing your life using your perception of others lives, is a muddy trail to Camp Miserable. Don’t go there.
Doing these three things should make a huge difference.
Then, I suggest turning up this song, dancing your ass off, and getting to work.
You got this.